Social Gathering Scenario

Green Dot Booster Session Review: Green Dot teaches Aggie faculty/staff and students to be aware of potential violence around them and provides the skills, strategies, and tactics to use the power of peer influence to intervene appropriately and safely in high-risk situations. Green Dot teaches how to become an active bystander when acts of power-based personal violence are witnessed. <center> Continue with the review: [[Red dots]] Skip to Story: [[Social Gathering Scenario]]

Red Dots A red dot is a moment in time where someone’s words, choices, or actions contribute to or tolerate violence in some way. Even when a bystander witnesses a situation of potential violence, but walks away and does nothing — that moment of inaction is a red dot. Categories of red dots that are the focus of Green Dot are explained below. Power-Based Personal Violence: A form of violence where the primary motivation is to use power, control and/or intimidation to harm another. This includes sexual harassment, dating violence, domestic violence, intimate partner violence, sexual assault, stalking, bullying, hazing, child abuse, and elder abuse. It includes the use of alcohol and other drugs as tools of incapacitation or inhibition during any of these acts. These acts are committed by strangers, friends, acquaintances, intimates, or any other person known or unknown to the individual being harmed. Sexual Violence: Any sexual contact that lacks consent and/or capacity to give consent. Includes all forms of sexual assault, including forcible fondling, rape and attempted rape, and incest Domestic Abuse/Violence: Any act of violence, attempted or threatened act of violence between current or former spouses, individuals who share a child in common, individuals who are living or have lived with each other as spouses or intimate partners, or anyone who causes harm to an adult or child in violation of domestic violence or family violence laws. Dating Abuse/Violence : Any act of violence, attempted or threatened act of violence between individuals who are involved or have been involved in a social relationship or romantic or intimate nature, including sexual or dating relationship. Domestic violence and dating violence include sexual assault, stalking, physical abuse, economic or emotional abuse including behaviors that are intended to intimidate, manipulate, humiliate or isolate. It also includes acts or threats against family members, friends, pets and property. Stalking: Course of conduct targeted at an individual or group that would cause a reasonable person to feel afraid or emotionally distressed. Examples include following, Facebooking, texting, calling, unwanted letters, gifts, etc. <center> Continue with the review: [[Green Dots]]

Trisha and Mark are going to a party Saturday night. They agreed that Trisha would be the designated driver and Mark says that he was going to get “wasted.” Once they arrive at the party, they separate out into their individual friend groups and are having a good time. <center>[[Continue: Party]]

Green Dots A green dot symbolizes a single moment in time that can be used to end perpetration or support victims of power-based personal violence. Green dots are divided into two categories: proactive and reactive. Proactive green dots are things people can do to prevent power-based personal violence from ever happening in the first place. Reactive green dots are things people can do to intervene in a red dot situation. <center> Continue with the review: [[Reactive Green Dots]]

Reactive Green Dots Reactive green dots are performed through the 3 D’s: direct, delegate, distract. Direct: Do something yourself. Ask someone to stop what they are doing, or check on someone you might be worried about. Delegate: Ask someone else to get involved. Ask friends of either of them to help; talk to a trusted RA, coach, faculty or staff member, or trusted peer. Tell the bartender or ask a family friend to check-in. Leave an anonymous note for the team captain or Greek advisor. Distract: Think of a distraction that will diffuse the situation or calm things down in the moment. A distraction might be “accidentally” spilling a drink, asking to borrow the phone of someone who is in a risky situation, asking for a ride, or starting an unrelated conversation. <center> Continue with the review: [[Barriers]]

Barriers A barrier is anything that prevents a person from wanting to intervene in a red dot situation. Personal barriers: being introverted, afraid of a physical escalation or retaliation, feeling unsure, or not wanting to make a scene or potentially embarrassing yourself Relationship or social barriers: not wanting to break an unspoken rule in your group, being perceived as a snitch, or feeling uncomfortable confronting a buddy <center> Continue with the review: [[Proactive Green Dots]]

Proactive Green Dots Proactive green dots are things we can do to begin stopping red dots before they even start. They begin to reset campus norms and make it clear that: <ol><li>Sexual assault, dating violence, and stalking are not okay.</li><li>Everyone is expected to do their part.</li></ol> <center> Start the story: [[Social Gathering Scenario]]

After a few hours, Trisha could tell that Mark was drunk, but seemed to be having a great time. Trisha sees a girl approach Mark. At first, they seem to be getting along, but the girl starts to get awfully close to Mark and begins touching him. Mark did not seem too comfortable by the interaction based on his body language. He was being squirmish and looking around. He tried to move away, but the girl grabbed his arm. Trisha couldn’t make out what the girl was saying, but she became more aggressive with her actions. She began to hit Mark in the chest. Please select what you would do in Trisha’s position. [[Direct: Do something yourself.]] [[Delegate: Ask someone else to get involved.]] [[Distract: Think of a distraction that will diffuse the situation or calm things down in the moment.]] [[Ignore: Not do anything about the situation at hand.]]

Direct Options Which direct option would you do? Option 1: Approach Mark and the girl and ask the girl to take her hands off of Mark Option 2: Approach Mark and the girl and ask the girl what she was doing and ask Mark if he was okay <center>[[Direct Option 1]] or [[Direct Option 2]]</center>

Delegate Options Which delegate option would you choose? Option 1: Ask the host of the party to approach Mark and the girl to diffuse the situation Option 2: Ask one of Mark’s friends to approach them and get Mark away from the situation <center>[[Delegate Option 1]] or [[Delegate Option 2]]

Distract Options Which distract option would you choose? Option 1: Pass by Mark and the girl and accidentally spill water on them Option 2: Approach Mark and say that they’re going to leave right now because she forgot her phone at Mark’s place <center>[[Distract Option 1]] or [[Distract Option 2]]</center>

Ignore Option You turn away from the interaction and continue to have fun with your friends. Later on when it’s time for everyone to go, you try to find Mark but he was not there from where you last saw him. You walk around the house and see that he’s lying on a bed in someone’s bedroom. He is unconscious with his shirt off and multiple bruises litter his chest. You’re shocked and call 9-1-1. <center>Go to [[Conclusion and Resources]]</center>

You walk up to Mark and the girl and ask the girl firmly to take her hands off of Mark. The girl eyed you up and down, looking annoyed that you interrupted what she was doing to Mark. The girl says, “Who do you think you are?” You reply, “I’m his girlfriend. And I’m kindly asking you to take your hands off one more time or I’m going to scream and cause a commotion.” The girl retracted her hands from Mark, mumbled something under her breath, and left you and Mark. Mark looks up at you and asks in a teasing tone, “Girlfriend?” You reply back with “Shut up,” smiling back at him, relieved that Mark was safe. <center>Go to [[Conclusion and Resources]]

You walk up to Mark and the girl. You ask the girl in a firm voice, “What are you doing?” before turning to Mark and asking if he was okay. Since the girl’s attention was on you, Mark took this chance to brush her hands away and stand up and walk over to you. “Yeah, I’m fine. Thank you for saving me back there. Do you want to start heading back?” asked Mark. You nod, relieved that Mark was safe. <center>Go to [[Conclusion and Resources]]

Green dot tries to teach individuals how to be an active bystander in situations where red dots are occurring. In this scenario, Trisha notices an interaction with Mark which she was concerned about while she had some personal barriers, her intervention made a difference to Mark. It is important to note, interpersonal violence can happen to anyone. Green dot bystander intervention training tries to develop a community that is educated in intervening even in these difficult situations. Campus resources:<ul><li><a href="https://shs.tamu.edu/" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673"> Student Health Services</a></li><li><a href="https://studentlife.tamu.edu/wrc/" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673"> Women's Resource Center</a></li><li><a href="https://upd.tamu.edu/Pages/Home.aspx" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673">Texas A&M University Police Department</a></li><li><a href="https://caps.tamu.edu/" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673">Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)</a></li><li><a href="https://liberalarts.tamu.edu/psychology/about/psychology-clinic/" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673">Texas A&M Psychology Clinic</a></li><li><a href="https://titleix.tamu.edu/" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673">Title IX Reporting either online or in-person</a></li></ul> Off-Campus resources:<ul><li><a href="https://www.bswhealth.com/locations/college-station-university-drive-clinic/?y_source=1_MTM0MTE1MTctNzE1LWxvY2F0aW9uLndlYnNpdGU%3D" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673">Baylor Scott and White Medical Center</a></li><li><a href="https://www.sarcbv.org/" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673">Sexual Assault Resource Center</a></li><li><a href="https://www.cstx.gov/departments___city_hall/police" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673">College Station or Bryan Police Department</a></li><li><a href="https://www.twincitymission.org/domestic-violence-services" target="_blank"style="color:#73D673">Twin City Mission Domestic Violence Services</a></li></ul> <center>Continue to [[Discussion Questions]]</center>

After seeing the encounter with Mark and the girl, you quickly look around, trying to find Randall, the host of the party and a mutual friend of you and Mark. You spot him hanging out with his friends near the back door. You walk up to him and call his name. Randall looks up and sees you walking towards him with a concerned expression. “What’s up?” he asks. “This girl is hitting Mark and is not letting him go. Can you please help me stop her?” you reply. You point towards their direction and see that the girl is getting up, pulling up Mark forcefully to do the same. Randall immediately walks over to them to diffuse the situation. “Becca!” Randall calls out. The girl quickly turns her head towards Randall and drops Mark’s arm. “Randy!” she called out, surprised. As Randall is talking with who you now know as Becca, Mark comes up to your side, releasing a sigh of relief. <center>Go to [[Conclusion and Resources]]</center>

After seeing the encounter with Mark and the girl, you quickly look around, trying to find Mark’s friend group. You spotted them drinking in the corner of the living room. You walk up to them and decide to approach Johnny, Mark’s closest friend and the person you feel most comfortable talking to. You called his name and Johnny looked up. “What’s up?” he said while pulling himself away from the group. “This girl is hitting Mark and is not letting him go. Can you please help me stop her?” you reply. “I’m sure Mark can handle himself. He’s a tough guy,” he responds nonchalantly. However, you refuse to give up and adamantly state that Mark is not safe right now. You point towards their direction and see that the girl is getting up, pulling up Mark forcefully to do the same. “Oh, that doesn’t look good. Hold on, I’ll be right back.” Johnny walks up to them and says to the girl, “Hey, what are you doing to my friend?” The girl turns towards Johnny and immediately drops Mark’s arm. “Oh, nothing,” she smiled innocently, “I have to go now, ha ha.” She walked off leaving Mark and Johnny. “Thanks for stopping her, dude,” said Mark with a sigh of relief. “Hey, don’t thank me, thank Trisha. She’s the one who called me over,” said Johnny. Mark smiled at you and thanked you. You’re just glad that Mark is safe. <center>Go to [[Conclusion and Resources]]</center>

You see your cup with water and an idea dawns upon you. Discreetly, you walk to Mark and the girl with your cup of water. As soon as you’re close enough to them, you accidentally “trip” and the water flies from your cup and splashes on Mark and the girl. They both exclaim in surprise. The girl looks towards you with makeup running down her face and shouts, “Watch where you’re going next time!” She begrudgingly stands up and walks away, presumably to the bathroom. <center>Go to [[Conclusion and Resources]]</center>

You suddenly come up with an idea to intervene. You walk up to Mark and the girl and exclaim, “Mark! I’ve been looking everywhere for you! We have to go! I totally forgot my phone at your place!” Before Mark could say anything, the girl interjects, “Couldn’t you just ask for his keys and get them yourself? Do you really need him to come with you?” “Yes, I can’t navigate well at night so I need Mark to drive me there,” you reply back firmly. “Fine, whatever,” says the girl before walking off in a different direction. <center>Go to [[Conclusion and Resources]]</center>

Discussion Questions What were some of the barriers Trisha faced? What are some of the barriers you would have faced if you were in the same position? What are some of the red dots that occurred? What are some proactive Green Dots you can practice in your daily life that would send a message that sexual harassment and sexual violence is unacceptable? <center> [[The End]]</center>

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